Woman walks out of NYE dinner after husband's family demands she pay with inheritance.
Few things bring out people's ugly hidden colors quite like money.
There are countless stories of financial windfalls exposing the entitlement of partners, close friends, and family members. No one wants to see the worst in their loved ones, but the presence of money can serve as a blacklight exposing what lies beneath.
In a popular post on the AITA subreddit, a woman asked if she was wrong for walking out of New Years dinner after finding out her husband's family expected her to pay with inheritance money.
She wrote:
AITA for silently getting up and walking out of the restaurant during NYE dinner after I was told to pay for everyone at the table (my in-laws)?
I F (32) recently inherited a good amount of money from my mom. I keep the money in a separate account as I still haven't decided what to do with it and I didn't want it to go to waste.
I noticed my husband constantly bringing up the inheritance money and making countless suggestions as to how I should spend it. Another thing is that he expects me to pay for nearly everything for the past couple of weeks.
For NYE, My husband and I met up with his family at a restaurant to celebrate. It was going fine until I found out that I was expected to pay for everyone at the table.
My husband's mom joked about paying for dinner out of my ' inheritance pocket' which made me livid but I showed no reaction. Just silently paid for my own food/drinks. Then got up and made my way out of the restaurant.
They were shouting after me like a crowd and my husband tried to get me to come back but I drove home.
He got back at 3 AM yelling at me saying I was pathetic to get up and walk out on him and his family after they relied on me to pay for their food and thought I was gracious enough to do it BUT they were wrong.
He said I humiliated him and his family and that what I did was an attempt to get back at them for not being able to help mom when she was sick. Not true is all I'm gonna say.
He is mad and is saying that I caused a huge rift between his family and me when it wouldn't have hurt me to pay for the celebratory dinner. AITA?
People gave their unbridled hot takes in the comments.
RichSignal7022 wrote:
So let me get this straight. Your mother died after an illness and the thing your in-laws take from this is 'great, now she can pay for everything.' Yeah, NTA.
Bellefior wrote:
NTA. When my Mom passed at an obscenely early age from cancer (she was 68, I was 28) the condo we had bought about six months earlier became mine. She also left me a considerable amount of cash.
I know in my heart my mom was comforted knowing she didn't have to worry about what would happen to me when she was gone. One of my crass relatives (her niece) commented on what she had left me.
My response: I'd rather have my mother back and be living in a cardboard box on the street.
ElectronicRub1716 wrote:
NTA. But please see a lawyer asap. After this trick, your husband is likely to divorce you to go after your inheritance; make sure your affairs are legally airtight so he can't touch it.
FLmom_Report4590 wrote:
NTA. No one ever has the right to expect someone else to pick up the tab, especially if it wasn’t agreed to upfront.
This causes two problems:
Let’s say for argument's sake that you WANTED to treat. But their expectation/demand of you treating literally robs you of the joy of picking up the tab. No one likes being forced.
Say you begrudgingly just paid. Now you’re setting a precedent of constantly being used and they will expect you to be the family piggy bank.
Your inheritance is no one’s business. You don’t owe anyone anything.
Your husband and in laws are shameful.
exlibris1214 wrote:
Don’t combine your inheritance $$$ in a shared account with your spouse. Keep it separate so it remains your sole asset. This is so insensitive of your husband-like dancing on your mother’s grave.
You are NTA. But your husband is 🚩🚩🚩
Red flags and a**holery abound in this situation, but none of it is from OP. Her husband and his family seem deeply insensitive at best, and like sinister users at worst.