Woman asks if she's wrong to refuse to reveal baby's gender to husband.
Gender reveal parties are all the rage these days, but what if you want to keep your baby's gender to yourself? Some pregnant women don't want everyone to know if their baby is going to be a boy or a girl, especially when there's pressure from their significant other or family. When this mother to be refuses to tell her husband and family the gender of her baby, she takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:
'AITA for refusing to tell my husband or anyone else the gender of my baby?' - oak356
My husband and dad both have a vested interest in my baby being a boy. Although my husband now claims he wouldn’t care either way and would love to have a daughter, I don’t know if I believe him. As soon as I was able to find out the gender, my husband wanted to but I said no.
Wow! This mom to be really put her foot down!
I started to feel anxious the further along I was, so I decided to find out alone. My family, especially my dad, have been asking me what the gender is. Everybody in my family, including my husband, is upset with me because I won’t tell them.
Right...but why WON'T OP reveal the gender?
The reason I wont is because I think they should be happy the baby is healthy and the focus shouldn’t be the gender. AITA?
Well, that seems like a good enough reason to me, but Reddit users were rather split on the issue. Let's see what they had to say.
YTA for you knowing and not telling your husband. That’s absurd and unfair. - razzledazzle626
YTA. Exactly. It would be one thing if OP was truly worried and decided it would be best for NO ONE to know before, but for her to find out and not tell her husband is not okay. - fluffyrelease667
Wow, really? Cut this mom some slack. In fact, some users did!
NTA. It seems like she can't win either way. He finds out it's a boy, he beams and gloats and struts around until the birth. He finds out it's a girl, he pouts and mopes and whines. I wouldn't want to deal with either. At least if he finds out when the baby is born, hopefully the actual physical baby will override his sexism. - codeverity
NTA! I can almost guarantee her husband will be jumping on her quite literally immediately after this one is born if it's not a boy. And he ain't gonna give one damn if it hurts her or his daughter to have her get pregnant again so quickly. He stands to inherit quite a bit from both his and her family if this baby is a boy. - georgiajl138