Woman asks if she was wrong to fail bride's 'friendship test' by wearing white.

We all know the rule...NEVER wear white to a friend's wedding. But what if it's not that simple?

It's a hard and fast rule that you never upstage the bride at her wedding. But what if the bride told you it was okay? When this friend wore white to her friend's wedding and all hell broke lose, runawaymaidofhonor consulted the popular Reddit forum to ask:

'AITA (Am I the A******) for wearing a white dress to my friend’s wedding?'

Charlotte (the bride) has spent the last 18 months planning this wedding down to the last detail. I won’t say she’s obsessive, but it’s been INTENSE and I’ve tried to help her as best I can with making appointments, managing stress, etc. I also gave her $250 to help pay for the wedding (her family can only afford part of it) which isn’t included in the wedding gift I’m going to give her.

She seems like a good friend to me...so far.

I knew Charlotte had a vision for her wedding and I wanted her as in control as possible for all the details of her special day, so I asked her which dress out of the three I’d narrowed it down to that I should wear. She asked if I would actually pull out all my dresses, so I did.

She ended up narrowing it down to one of my picks, along with a dress I had put firmly in the “no” pile for being white. It was a wedding after all. She told me both dresses were lovely, but that she prefers the white one. I asked if she was sure, and she said yes, and even picked out a pair of pink and white heels from her closet to go with my dress. I figured that was that.

What could go wrong? Charlotte SAID it was ok!

Fast forward to last week, I show up in the dress about half an hour before the ceremony. I get some weird looks, but no one says anything. In hindsight, this is when I should have realized something wasn’t right. When Charlotte comes out of her dressing room for some last minute pictures, she looks shocked to see me, and then she starts turning red.

At this point the Reddit Mob was still ready to take down this friend for wearing white. Read the room girl! But then...

Charlotte pulls me aside and starts going off on me immediately about wearing the dress to her wedding. I’m stunned. I ask her what the problem is, because SHE picked the dress out, and she told me it was a “friendship test” and that if we were real friends then I wouldn’t have worn a white dress or her shoes to her wedding.

I started laughing because I honestly thought it was a joke, and she screamed at me that I ruined her “ f-ing wedding” and to “gtfo”. I flat out told her she was crazy and left, not wanting to fight anymore and not knowing how to deal with what happened. I grabbed my wedding gift to them on the way out.

After this 'friendship test' plot twist, some Reddit users brought Bridezilla Charlotte down in FLAMES...

NTA. While I would otherwise say it’s a no-brainer not to wear white to someone else’s wedding, the fact that she picked the dress means she chose to play mind games, knowing they could potentially “ruin her fu%#ing wedding”. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She should’ve just communicated like a grownup! -sparksfly591

Like the dress was in a “NO” pile. The friend wasn't even considering it. I feel like the friend saw the white dress in the NO pile, got mad that there was a white dress, to begin with, and decided to make an a****** out of herself. The fact that she PULLED the dress FROM the “NO” pile to offer it to OP says it all for me. -ultravivaciousness

When someone is mad at you because they lied to you and you believed them, that person is TA, regardless of what conventions exist in the broader culture about colors of dresses. Your friend lied to your face and embarrassed you in public just to see if she could. NTA - stay_mellow

Most people were furious with the Charlotte, but others still sided with the bride.

The thing that baffles me most is that, even after being told to wear the dress, I think most women would be like, “nah, the bride is in white, I’m just not gonna touch this with a ten foot pole.' -katelldee

But in response to that, in the TWIST OF ALL TWISTS, runawaymaidofhonor dropped this bomb on the thread.

Someone made a comment about how “if the bride is wearing white” I should at least be prepared for the weird glances. The bride didn’t even wear white. That was another non-traditional thing she did. She wore blue.

Bridezilla in Blue? No thank you! After this reveal, not a single person on the forum sided with Charlotte. The lesson? Don't wear white to a wedding. But more importantly...

Don't be friends with a psycho!