Weddings

<p>Everyone loves a wedding. It&#39;s a great opportunity for family and friends to drink, eat, dance and celebrate the happy couple. But what is a wedding without a little family drama? When this husband-to-be uninvites his &quot;attenton seeking&quot; gay brother and his boyfriend from his wedding and subsequently gets accused by his family for being homophobic, this groom takes to the popular <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/vs6he4/aita_for_uninviting_my_gay_brother_and_his/">Reddit forum</a> to ask:</p><h2>&quot;AITA for uninviting my gay brother and his boyfriend to my wedding?&quot;</h2><h2>The OP is the husband to be.</h2><blockquote> <p>I (36M) am getting married to my wife (34F). When I gave one to my brother (Sam) he asked if he could bring his (22M) boyfriend to the wedding I was immediately super fond of the idea as Jack (his BF) and I are both very fairly close. About a week later Sam sent a picture of what he was going to be wearing to the black &amp; white wedding in the wedding group chat, and it was a rainbow tuxedo. -yrboiduck</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Okay, a rainbow tuxedo is a lot, but what happens next between these two brothers is insane...</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>Initially I thought my brother was joking so I said &ldquo;lmao.&rdquo; He was very hurt and told me to go f*** myself. He has always been quite feminine in his clothing choices which I am completely ok with but me and my soon to be wife both thought that what he wanted to wear was inappropriate and would take the attention away from my wife and me.</p> </blockquote><h2>But are you &quot;completely&quot; okay with his clothing choices? Was that &quot;go f*** yourself&quot; as unwarranted as it seems?</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I told him that him and his boyfriend were both uninvited from our wedding.</p> </blockquote><h2>WHOA. Okay, so you didn&#39;t even give your brother a chance to wear something different? You just straight up uninvited him? Little shady IMO...</h2><blockquote> <p>He told me that the only reason that I didn&rsquo;t want him there was because I was homophobic.</p> </blockquote><h2>But are you a little bit?</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>I am very much NOT homophobic. I go to pride marches and have never had any problem with him being gay. Most of our family agrees with my decision. But some are refusing to come to the wedding now. I did explain to my brother his tuxedo made us uncomfortable but he kept pulling the &ldquo;well ur just being homophobic&rdquo; card on my and me soon to be wife. Also on the invitation was a dress code saying black and white only. So AITA?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><h2>Hmmm, I&#39;m still confused as to why the groom didn&#39;t give his brother a chance to wear something different. He just uninvited him right off the bat? And if family members are boycotting the wedding now, it all seems a bit suspicious on OP&#39;s end...</h2><p> </p><h2>Let&#39;s see what the Reddit mob had to say...</h2><p> </p><blockquote> <p>NTA. A rainbow tuxedo? Seriously???!!! Yes, that WOULD take attention away from the bride and you. He is pulling the gay card in order to strong arm you into letting him wear that to the wedding. As to the people who are refusing to come to the wedding now, send them a picture of the rainbow tuxedo and THEN see what they have to say. -patjames904</p> <p> </p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>NTA. It would make a great wedding suit, <em>at his own wedding</em>. -lotus-eater123</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>I googled rainbow tuxedos and most of them look like something Willy Wonka or Mr Magorium would wear. Absolutely not ok in a setting where others are supposed to be the center of attention and you&rsquo;re supposed to blend into the background. This is like saying you want to simultaneously give your same-sex bf vows of love on-stage during the ceremony and calling OP homophobic if he says no. NTA. -rbollige</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>ESH. Is there any other reason he&rsquo;s taking such a stand on this? Seems pretty petty for him to create such a drama over something so easily fixed. Feels like there&#39;s some weird history of intolerance between the brothers. And furthermore, is the wife potentially the homophobic one? - mlf89877act</p> </blockquote><h2>Well there you have it folks. The OP is apparently not the AH. I&#39;m still on the fence but Reddit users have spoken...to a certain extent. The lesson? Don&#39;t buy a rainbow tuxedo unless you KNOW you&#39;re going to be able to wear it!</h2><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Man asks if he was wrong to uninvite gay brother from wedding over 'flamboyant' outfit.

Everyone loves a wedding. It&#39;s a great opportunity for family and friends to drink, eat, dance and celebrate the happy couple. But what is a wedding without a little family drama? When this husband-to-be uninvites his &quot;attenton seeking&quot; gay brother and his boyfriend from his wedding and subsequently gets accused by his family for being homophobic, this groom takes to the popular Reddit forum to ask:&quot;AITA for uninviting my gay brother and his boyfriend to my wedding?&quot;The OP is the husband to be. I (36M) am getting married to my wife (34F). When I gave one to my brother (Sam) he asked if he could bring his (22M) boyfriend to the wedding I was immediately super fond of the idea as Jack (his BF) and I are both very fairly close. About a week later Sam sent a picture of what he was going to be wearing to the black &amp; white wedding in the wedding group chat, and it was a rainbow tuxedo. -yrboiduck Okay, a rainbow tuxedo is a lot, but what happens next between these two brothers is insane...  Initially I thought my brother was joking so I said &ldquo;lmao.&rdquo; He was very hurt and told me to go f*** myself. He has always been quite feminine in his clothing choices which I am completely ok with but me and my soon to be wife both thought that what he wanted to wear was inappropriate and would take the attention away from my wife and me. But are you &quot;completely&quot; okay with his clothing choices? Was that &quot;go f*** yourself&quot; as unwarranted as it seems?  I told him that him and his boyfriend were both uninvited from our wedding. WHOA. Okay, so you didn&#39;t even give your brother a chance to wear something different? You just straight up uninvited him? Little shady IMO... He told me that the only reason that I didn&rsquo;t want him there was because I was homophobic. But are you a little bit?  I am very much NOT homophobic. I go to pride marches and have never had any problem with him being gay. Most of our family agrees with my decision. But some are refusing to come to the wedding now. I did explain to my brother his tuxedo made us uncomfortable but he kept pulling the &ldquo;well ur just being homophobic&rdquo; card on my and me soon to be wife. Also on the invitation was a dress code saying black and white only. So AITA? Hmmm, I&#39;m still confused as to why the groom didn&#39;t give his brother a chance to wear something different. He just uninvited him right off the bat? And if family members are boycotting the wedding now, it all seems a bit suspicious on OP&#39;s end... Let&#39;s see what the Reddit mob had to say...  NTA. A rainbow tuxedo? Seriously???!!! Yes, that WOULD take attention away from the bride and you. He is pulling the gay card in order to strong arm you into letting him wear that to the wedding. As to the people who are refusing to come to the wedding now, send them a picture of the rainbow tuxedo and THEN see what they have to say. -patjames904    NTA. It would make a great wedding suit, at his own wedding. -lotus-eater123  I googled rainbow tuxedos and most of them look like something Willy Wonka or Mr Magorium would wear. Absolutely not ok in a setting where others are supposed to be the center of attention and you&rsquo;re supposed to blend into the background. This is like saying you want to simultaneously give your same-sex bf vows of love on-stage during the ceremony and calling OP homophobic if he says no. NTA. -rbollige  ESH. Is there any other reason he&rsquo;s taking such a stand on this? Seems pretty petty for him to create such a drama over something so easily fixed. Feels like there&#39;s some weird history of intolerance between the brothers. And furthermore, is the wife potentially the homophobic one? - mlf89877act Well there you have it folks. The OP is apparently not the AH. I&#39;m still on the fence but Reddit users have spoken...to a certain extent. The lesson? Don&#39;t buy a rainbow tuxedo unless you KNOW you&#39;re going to be able to wear it!

Everyone loves a wedding. It&#39;s a great opportunity for family and friends to drink, eat, dance and celebrate the happy couple. But what is a wedding without a little family drama? When this husband-to-be uninvites his &quot;attenton...