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<p>Amna Saleem was just <a href="http://mashable.com/2018/01/22/woman-harassed-stranger-helps/?utm_cid=hp-h-10#GRtWoaJlb5qo" target="_blank">sitting at a bar in East London</a>, minding her own business, waiting for her boyfriend to finish work, when a guy started hassling her to have a drink with him. This is a pretty familiar situation for just about any woman who&#39;s ever spent time alone in a bar.</p><p>But Saleem, a former BuzzFeed writer, got lucky when a kind stranger intervened. Saleem tweeted the interaction, and her tweet&#39;s gone massively viral.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">guy: ...just one drink<br>me: no thank you<br>guy: come on it&#39;s just a drink<br>me: look, i&#39;m sorry I just want to read my book while i wait for my bf<br>guy: what ur bf doesn&#39;t let you have friends?<br>random woman: Clara? Hi! *hugs* (whispers) u ok?<br><br>women are great</p>&mdash; Amna (@AGlasgowGirl) <a href="https://twitter.com/AGlasgowGirl/status/954805372115734528?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 20, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>Saleem&#39;s tweet detailed her conversation with the random dude.</p><blockquote> <p>guy: &hellip;just one drink</p> <p>me: no thank you</p> <p>guy: come on it&#39;s just a drink</p> <p>me: look, i&#39;m sorry I just want to read my book while i wait for my bf</p> <p>guy: what ur bf doesn&#39;t let you have friends?</p> <p>random woman: Clara? Hi! *hugs* (whispers) u ok?</p> <p>women are great</p> </blockquote><p>Relating the story to <em><a href="http://mashable.com/2018/01/22/woman-harassed-stranger-helps/?utm_cid=hp-h-10#GRtWoaJlb5qo" target="_blank">Mashable</a></em>, Saleem said, &quot;A man approached me while I was reading and refused to accept that I wasn&#39;t interested in being bought a drink or further conversation. I was trying to remain polite so it didn&#39;t escalate but I was getting irritated at which point a lovely woman nearby intervened pretending to be an old friend.&quot;</p><p>Once the woman stepped in to help, the man looked annoyed and awkwardly hung about before finally leaving,&quot; Saleem said. She <a href="http://mashable.com/2018/01/22/woman-harassed-stranger-helps/?utm_cid=hp-h-10#GRtWoaJlb5qo" target="_blank">added</a> that she hopes other people will step in when they see people stuck in uncomfortable, potentially dangerous situations, saying, &quot;I feel like we should look out for each other.&quot;</p><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="giphy-embed" frameborder="0" height="208" src="https://giphy.com/embed/3o7bu9s30QaTAcMbug" width="480"></iframe> <p> </p> </div><p>A man on Twitter asked how men could step in to help women in these situations without possibly escalating them.</p><div> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-conversation="none" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">Any advice on how men can do similar without also coming across as creepy/invasive? My go to is a &#39;dude back off you have been told shes not interested&#39; but it can cause people to get aggro which could be a problem later in the night..</p> &mdash; Sleepypirate (@BunkoPirate) <a href="https://twitter.com/BunkoPirate/status/955043727143243776?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async="" charset="utf-8" src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js"></script></div><p>Saleem responded that maybe instead of commanding the other guy to back off, men can just step in and say something like, &quot;hey! I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m late, you okay?&quot; She added that the most important thing is the eyes and the tone.</p><div> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet" data-conversation="none" data-lang="en"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">waaaay back I had a guy intervene by saying &quot;hey, gf is looking for u, she wants to know if ur good to go&quot; which i really appreciated. Or even something like &quot;hey! so sorry i&#39;m late you ok?&quot; It&#39;s all in the eyes and tone. Nice of you to ask :)</p> &mdash; Amna (@AGlasgowGirl) <a href="https://twitter.com/AGlasgowGirl/status/955047042660929536?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async="" charset="utf-8" src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>People on Twitter commiserated and some shared their own stories.</p><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">And how sad it is necessary that we need to look out for one another, because a simple and polite No doesn&#39;t suffice.</p>&mdash; Madame Huhn (@Mama_Huhn) <a href="https://twitter.com/Mama_Huhn/status/955010277413740545?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">He never spoke to me except to tell me that was exactly what he was doing.<br><br>&quot;Its late and I don&#39;t want to leave you out here by yourself. Never know what could happen.&quot;<br><br>He just played on his phone till more people showed up for this 3 am bus.</p>&mdash; TokuSwag the Smaphowolf (@tokuswag) <a href="https://twitter.com/tokuswag/status/955233867945791488?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 22, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div class="oembedall-container sec-iframe sec-oembed-iframe"><blockquote class="twitter-tweet"><p lang="en" dir="ltr">Bartended for years and saw this happen constantly. A weird passive thing guys tried to do was send drinks to women they didn&#39;t know from across the bar. I always asked if ladies wanted the drink because if I just served it w/o warning, guys took a sip as an invitation.</p>&mdash; Nate Martins (@martin_plural) <a href="https://twitter.com/martin_plural/status/955146367323656192?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">January 21, 2018</a></blockquote> <script async src="https://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" charset="utf-8"></script></div><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>A guy should never do it for selfish reasons, but hey, you never know what could happen!</p><oembed>https://twitter.com/JamielPridgen/status/955093837021614080</oembed><div className="ad-splitter"></div><div><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="giphy-embed" frameborder="0" height="274" src="https://giphy.com/embed/vB6GQ7Ogc6j4I" width="480"></iframe> <p> </p> </div><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

Woman fends off guy harassing her at a bar with the help of a quick-thinking stranger.

Amna Saleem was just sitting at a bar in East London, minding her own business, waiting for her boyfriend to finish work, when a guy started hassling her to have a drink with him. This is a pretty familiar situation for just about any woman who&#39;s ever spent time alone in a bar.But Saleem, a former BuzzFeed writer, got lucky when a kind stranger intervened. Saleem tweeted the interaction, and her tweet&#39;s gone massively viral.guy: ...just one drinkme: no thank youguy: come on it&#39;s just a drinkme: look, i&#39;m sorry I just want to read my book while i wait for my bfguy: what ur bf doesn&#39;t let you have friends?random woman: Clara? Hi! *hugs* (whispers) u ok?women are great&mdash; Amna (@AGlasgowGirl) January 20, 2018 Saleem&#39;s tweet detailed her conversation with the random dude. guy: &hellip;just one drink me: no thank you guy: come on it&#39;s just a drink me: look, i&#39;m sorry I just want to read my book while i wait for my bf guy: what ur bf doesn&#39;t let you have friends? random woman: Clara? Hi! *hugs* (whispers) u ok? women are great Relating the story to Mashable, Saleem said, &quot;A man approached me while I was reading and refused to accept that I wasn&#39;t interested in being bought a drink or further conversation. I was trying to remain polite so it didn&#39;t escalate but I was getting irritated at which point a lovely woman nearby intervened pretending to be an old friend.&quot;Once the woman stepped in to help, the man looked annoyed and awkwardly hung about before finally leaving,&quot; Saleem said. She added that she hopes other people will step in when they see people stuck in uncomfortable, potentially dangerous situations, saying, &quot;I feel like we should look out for each other.&quot;   A man on Twitter asked how men could step in to help women in these situations without possibly escalating them.  Any advice on how men can do similar without also coming across as creepy/invasive? My go to is a &#39;dude back off you have been told shes not interested&#39; but it can cause people to get aggro which could be a problem later in the night.. &mdash; Sleepypirate (@BunkoPirate) January 21, 2018 Saleem responded that maybe instead of commanding the other guy to back off, men can just step in and say something like, &quot;hey! I&#39;m sorry I&#39;m late, you okay?&quot; She added that the most important thing is the eyes and the tone.  waaaay back I had a guy intervene by saying &quot;hey, gf is looking for u, she wants to know if ur good to go&quot; which i really appreciated. Or even something like &quot;hey! so sorry i&#39;m late you ok?&quot; It&#39;s all in the eyes and tone. Nice of you to ask :) &mdash; Amna (@AGlasgowGirl) January 21, 2018 People on Twitter commiserated and some shared their own stories.And how sad it is necessary that we need to look out for one another, because a simple and polite No doesn&#39;t suffice.&mdash; Madame Huhn (@Mama_Huhn) January 21, 2018 He never spoke to me except to tell me that was exactly what he was doing.&quot;Its late and I don&#39;t want to leave you out here by yourself. Never know what could happen.&quot;He just played on his phone till more people showed up for this 3 am bus.&mdash; TokuSwag the Smaphowolf (@tokuswag) January 22, 2018 Bartended for years and saw this happen constantly. A weird passive thing guys tried to do was send drinks to women they didn&#39;t know from across the bar. I always asked if ladies wanted the drink because if I just served it w/o warning, guys took a sip as an invitation.&mdash; Nate Martins (@martin_plural) January 21, 2018 A guy should never do it for selfish reasons, but hey, you never know what could happen!https://twitter.com/JamielPridgen/status/955093837021614080   

A woman getting harassed at a bar was helped out by a woman who witnessed the interaction.