When Mel Rymill, a new mom from Australia, met a personal trainer for the first time on November 19, she felt disrespected and pissed when the trainer assumed she was in it to look good, rather than to feel good.
"The first thing she said to me was 'Obviously you want to get back to your pre-baby weight,'" Rymill wrote. "It wasn't a question, it was a statement. And it pissed. Me. Off."
Rymill's anger resonated with people all over the Internet. Her post about her experience has been shared over 8,700 times.
The entire post reads:
So I had my first session with a PT today and the first thing she said to me was "Obviously you want to get back to your pre-baby weight". It wasn't a question, it was a statement.
And it pissed. Me. Off.
I corrected her nicely by simply saying "my goal is to regain my core strength and endurance...I'm not worried by how my body looks, only how it functions...it can be pretty badass".
But it got me thinking. Post pregnant women are told they look good if they return to their pre-baby body quickly leading to the assumption that they look bad if the keep the extra weight. Skinny people are envied for their lack of fat or shamed for apparently starving themselves. Voluptuous women are either labelled fat and shamed or they're labelled brave for being comfortable in their own skin. There is always pressure.
No one is comfortable in their own skin 100% of the time. Constantly labelling people and piling expectations associated with these labels on them is harmful to everyone...including those doing the labelling.
What we should be worrying about is if people are ok, not what they look like.
So here I am. I may not be magazine ready, my nana undies and bedtime nursing bra are certainly not going to be rocking a runway anytime soon, my hair is greasy, I have no makeup on, my body is squishy and plentiful, I'm not even sure I'm totally ok.
But I am strong. My body is healthy.
Hell, I am badass as fuck!
Screw what society wants from me. This is what's on offer.
Join me if you will #badassundies
People have heeded her call and posted their own #BadassUndies pics:
Rymill writes on Facebook that she's excited and proud that the movement is taking off, and hopes to do more body-positive activism in the future.