Writer and mother Teresa Finocchio (yes, we know it rhymes with Pinocchio, let's move on), worked happily for the same restaurant and catering company from the time she was 19 until she was 27. Then, she got pregnant, and everything changed.
Teresa told her story on the blog Breastfeeding World, writing:
At this point, I had co-worked with the same boss everyday from the age of 19 to 27. Family events, birthdays, holidays…all were spent together. My life during those ages, as most people’s are, was incredibly hard with college, a sick father, divorcing parents, a cheating boyfriend and eventually the loss of my father. I will say that he worked very well with me through all these things, so, after 2 years of a new healthy relationship and a baby on the way, the first thing I thought about my boss, was how well he was going to support me through this next chapter. Nope, wrong.
Just days before I told him the news, he was telling me all the new opportunities he had for me in the business (he was moving into a local country club). The same day I sat him down to tell him the news (by the way, I told him when I was less than 6 weeks pregnant!), he called in an old employee to come in for a meeting to come back to work. Red flag? Within the next two weeks things drastically changed.
She says that her boss quickly began reducing her responsibilities and taking her off future events, until she basically didn't have a job left. His reasoning? Pregnancy would make her too stupid to work!
At one point I sat down with him and he said to me “I cannot have you forgetting things here (and this was not after I forgot something). You’re going to be stupid, just like [my wife] was. But it’s not your fault”, he said, “all the blood is going to your uterus and not your brain…this just happens to pregnant people”. Whaaaaat?
Teresa was lucky, in the sense that her husband encouraged her to quit a job that had begun to make her miserable and is now a happy stay-at-home mom. A lot of preggo ladies being discriminated against in the workplace don't have that option. After handing in her resignation and offering to train a replacement, her boss of 8 years ultimately fired her in the middle of a shift, unceremoniously telling her to leave her key on the desk. But she has a message for him:
I have not heard from him since (or his wife) but if he were to read this blog I would like to tell him that I learned a lot in those years, I made memories and friends, I thoroughly enjoyed my pregnancy and I am doing well, I have a beautiful baby daughter who I LOVE being a stay at home mom to (thanks!), and most of all, I would really like to tell him to, “Baciomi culo“.
That's "kiss my ass" in Italian, just in case you're ever pregnant and dealing with an ignorant boss.