A Tumblr user noticed a note posted on her college campus bemoaning girls who don't give "good guys a chance," and it was understandably annoying to her and every woman who has had to deal with a man asking for a pat on the back for doing basic human things. The letter this anonymous bro wrote went viral when Twitter user @mitchberghini picked it up:
I get it.
You don’t want a pleasant evening chat.
You don’t want a gentleman to walk you to your car.
You don’t want a friendly dude to help you carry your groceries… or hold open the door… or crush the life out of other men that would do you harm.
Fine - fear the good guys… I guess we’ll have to just suffer through watching you get broken over and over by the scum you think you love.
But I want you to know – it’s not easy and it hurts to see you fall.
Give the good guys a chance to help you be less afraid of the world.
But his tweet doesn't include the Tumblr user's awesome response. The young student, who only gave her name as Meghan to BuzzFeed when they reached out to her for an interview, began taping up her own letter to this "nice guy."
Her response reads:
If you're watching some girl you like getting hurt by another guy STOP WHINING ABOUT IT AND DO SOMETHING. Don't leave some anonymous note on a dorm wall. If you know someone is being hurt DO. SOME. THING.
If you want to play the "good guy" you need to rethink your intentions. If you're only doing it for gratification, then you aren't being the good guy. Did Batman give up on Gotham because people weren't thanking him for saving the city?
You know what I really want? I want respect.
I want people to respect that I'd rather not walk with a stranger in the middle of the night. I want people to respect that I can defend myself. I want people to respect that WOMEN CAN DO THINGS WITHOUT A GENTLEMAN TO HELP.
You want to be a gentleman and a good guy? Start with changing the way you and other men see women. We aren't fragile things you need to defend. We're people. Keep holding doors open, keep being friendly, just don't expect things in return. You aren't owed anything by this world.
If you want to be less afraid of the world, then change the world, don't change us.
Whatever side you take, at least there are flyers on a college campus about something else besides donating your eggs.