A mommy blogger is going viral for her unique stance on her kids using curse words: It's not that big a f*cking deal.
Constance Hall wrote a thoughtful and hilarious post on Facebook after she noticed that her son Arlo started casually using curse words. In an age where you will be mommy-shamed to death for how you are raising your child, this is definitely a refreshing take.
Hall confesses that she occasionally swears in front of her children, but she would never do it at the expense of others. She wrote:
You'll never catch me calling someone a name or screaming "fuck off. It's the "for fuck sakes" when you you've gotten everyone in the car and are pulling out of the drive way when you smell a baby decided now was the perfect time to drop a shit.
But until recently, Hall's children understood that although she sometimes curses, they are not allowed to use those words. But she noticed that her son Arlo's friends use curse words in conversation, and he has picked up their bad habits.
Thankfully, Hall is a cool mom who understands that it is not the words themselves that are "bad"—it is the intent behind them. As she put it in her Facebook post:
Does it bother me? Not much, meanness would bother me more. I certainly don't encourage it, have pulled him up on it and he appears to have stopped.
But I realized something pretty important. Arlo is reaching an age where his friends have a greater influence on him then I do, he copies them, loves them dearly and gets empowered by them.
I read about that once, about how you will come to a time where your children get their power from their mates and there isn't much you can do about it, you need to let them discover who they are in a group of peers. That's socializing.
And it's beautiful.
Writing that "meanness" in her children would "bother me more," Hall emphasizes that she is more interested in teaching her children kindness, good morals and respect. And that is a pretty f*cking good way to look at things.
Commenters chimed in to talk about their own experiences raising children who use curse words:
Check out the entire post on Constance Hall's Facebook page here.