Like many kids, I was always taught that I have to share my toys and stuff with other kids even if I don't want to, because sharing is caring, blah blah blah. But Missouri mom Alanya Kolberg has had enough of this "sharing" nonsense and she's taking a bold, all-caps stand.
"MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS," Kolberg wrote on Facebook last week, after her son Carson was "approached by at least 6 boys, all at once demanding that he share his transformer, Minecraft figure, and truck."
She says her son was "visibly overwhelmed" by the experience, so she told him: "You can tell them no, Carson. Just say no. You don't have to say anything else."
Kolberg explains that after she told her kid he didn't have to share his toys, she got pushback from other kids as well as "dirty looks" from other parents. This is her response:
If I, an adult, walked into the park eating a sandwich, am I required to share my sandwich with strangers in the park? No!
Would any well-mannered adult, a stranger, reach out to help themselves to my sandwich, and get huffy if I pulled it away? No again.
You can read the full post here:
Kolberg explains at the end that her son DID eventually share his toys, willingly, with a specific friend. "He only didn't want to share with the greedy boys because he was excited to surprise her with them," she wrote, and included a photo of Carson and his friend, happily sharing toys.
Her post went viral and, ironically, has been shared over 200 thousand times. And she did stir up some controversy in the comments, but mostly about the "snowflake" comment.
And a few people disagree with her point about sharing.
But the overwhelming majority of commenters, including parents and teachers, agree with Kolberg and are praising her approach:
Like that last commenter, I was initially "on edge" reading this, too. But now I agree it makes sense. Sharing is caring. But setting boundaries and learning to say "no" are also caring (for yourself).
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments (or don't! it's up to you).