Your wedding is supposed to be your day, customized to your exact specifications. But what happens when your perfect day stomps directly on someone else's rights?
Along with the wedding invite, the bride sent an insert that explained their wedding would have "an appropriate place for you to feed your baby." At first, it seems like a considerate gesture, especially since the area was described as "a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room." But the invite also made the couple's feelings about breastfeeding in public very clear.
The couple explained that they had created the breastfeeding nook so that "you do not have to [breastfeed] in public in front of our family and friends," (Emphasis theirs.) The wording makes it clear that mothers aren't being given a comfy area, they're being shuttled out of sight.
"I don't eat in the bathroom I'm not feeding my child in there!" wrote the wedding guest. Instead, she considered leaving her 3-month-old with a friend, but the couple also refused that idea. It seems that they want the baby at the wedding — but on their terms. News flash: babies only abide by their own terms.
The more we allow mothers to be shoved into bathrooms and breastfeeding areas, the further we get from destigmatizing breastfeeding. In this case, it also serves to make breastfeeding mothers feel unwanted. This bride may have gotten her wedding day wish, but she also lost a friend.