Pregnancy

<p>As if growing a person in your body for nine months and then pushing it out isn&#39;t enough work, pregnant women often have to deal with copious amounts of bullsh*t from people who feel entitled to ask inappropriate personal questions about their pregnancy. One of the many reasons I support a woman&#39;s right to choose to tell someone to STFU.</p><h2>Someone <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/aonuu3/hey_pregnant_women_of_reddit_what_has_been_the/" target="_blank">asked</a> people of Reddit who have been pregnant: &quot;what&#39;s the most inappropriate things people have asked you about your pregnancy?&quot; These 11 women share their stories of people who majorly crossed the line:</h2><p>1.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Abaiyachi/">Abaiyachi</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve been asked a total of four times where I conceived. By family members.</p> <p>Like...how in depth do you really want that answer?</p> </blockquote><p>2.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/size_matters_not/">size_matters_not</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;m the husband in this case, but when my wife was pregnant I met up with an ex-colleague - a woman - who was known for having a screw loose.</p> <p>We were talking about the pregnancy and she said she liked to hug pregnant women from behind and stroke their bumps, so she could pretend it was hers.</p> <p>Yeah, stay the f**k away from my wife.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>3.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Lastofherkind/">Lastofherkind</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I had difficulty gaining weight when I was pregnant due to severe morning sickness. I had an acquaintance tell me that my baby was going to be malnourished and sickly since I didn&rsquo;t gain enough weight. That really upset me since I was already worried about that possibility. The baby ended up being average weight and healthy.</p> </blockquote><p>4.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hyphie/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">hyphie</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>People have generally been tactful so far. One that sticks out was my boss blurting out &quot;was it planned?&quot; when I told him. Yeah... that seems to be a common one.</p> <p>Then there was this coworker who took one glance at me and told me &quot;you couldn&#39;t <em>possibly</em> get any bigger!&quot; when I was only 6 months along and carried pretty small. Ooookay.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>That&#39;s pretty much it for me. However, I&#39;ll always remember when my SIL brought her new baby to a family gathering. My uncle, who didn&#39;t even know her, asked her a bunch of questions about the birth like &quot;did you give birth vaginally? Did you have an episiotomy? Did it hurt?&quot;. Aaaaawkward.</p> </blockquote><p>5.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/jbdaddy12/">jbdaddy12</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>At 7 months pregnant, my wife was in a grocery store, when a woman we do not know walked up, placed her hand on my wife&#39;s baby bump and said, &quot;How precious, you feel like about 7 months pregnant.&quot;</p> <p>My wife cannot stand being touched, unbidden, by strangers.</p> <p>So she smiled, grabbed the woman&#39;s boob and replied, &quot;You feel like about a B cup.&quot;</p> <p>And they parted ways without another word, &quot;B Cup&quot; standing there aghast and stammering. I love my wife.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>6.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/occupandi-temporis/" style="font-family: BlinkMacSystemFont, -apple-system, &quot;Segoe UI&quot;, Roboto, Oxygen, Ubuntu, Cantarell, &quot;Fira Sans&quot;, &quot;Droid Sans&quot;, &quot;Helvetica Neue&quot;, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 1.1rem; letter-spacing: -0.02em;">occupandi-temporis</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I&rsquo;ve been asked if my vagina was shaved, like, at the moment of me talking to that person, and if my boyfriend shaves it for me.</p> <p>I&rsquo;ve been asked how we have sex. I&rsquo;ve had men ask my boyfriend IN FRONT OF ME if my vagina feels different now when we have sex.</p> </blockquote><p>7.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/dustbunnylurking/">dustbunnylurking</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>I had to see a maternal fetal medicine specialist who told me he&#39;d recommend this be my last pregnancy, but to get an IUD not a tubal ligation because when I get divorced, I&#39;ll want to have a baby with my new man. Never met me before.... I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and started to say something like &quot;God forbid, but i suppose something could happen to my husband,&quot; he cut me off to say &quot;divorce is more likely&quot;. I was more than a little upset with that assessment..... More because, either there is a medical necessity to only have 2 pregnancies or there isn&#39;t, than his divorce comments, but still....</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>8.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/ReginaSerpentium/">ReginaSerpentium</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>&quot;Was it planned?&quot; is one I get a LOT of now (currently 21 weeks with a baby boy!). Yes, baby was planned but I had a small chance of carrying long enough to make it to a dating scan because of hormonal issues and previous scarring.</p> <p>Touching the belly without asking is constant and I actually slapped an old coworker who came up behind me and did that with no warning.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>&quot;You have two boys already, you should have gotten an abortion. You can always have another later.&quot; Yeah I actually got this one. The boys aren&#39;t mine (partners previous relationship), and fcking judgemental old hag can go fck off. God it made me so mad.</p> <p>Also the whole &quot;I&#39;m going to be the godparent/present for the birth/your support person for birth/etc riiiiiight?!&quot;. Urghhhhhh</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>9.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/DoctorNini/">DoctorNini</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>During my pregnancy, I was asked all kinds of things about breastfeeding, how I wanted to deliver, and even whether my husband and I could still have sex. The rudest question was by a coworker after I got back from maternity leave: &quot;so is everything still okay down there or did you need a lot of stitches?&quot;. This was asked during lunch, in front of 10 other colleagues. I was so horrified, I don&#39;t think I even formed a coherent answer.</p> </blockquote><p>10.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/alexaplaydespasito/">alexaplaydespasito</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>This lady I worked with figured out when I conceived from my expected due date. It was within a week of my birthday.</p> <p>She then told everyone in our office that I got pregnant for my birthday. It was super awkward.</p> <p>I was also asked repeatedly if we were going to circumcise our son. Like why are you f**king asking me about our son&rsquo;s genitals? Why is that anyone&rsquo;s business?</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><p>11.) From <a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/Swagsman21/">Swagsman21</a>:</p><blockquote> <p>My SIL texted my husband out of the blue asking if I was pregnant. I was only 8 weeks and my husband and I agreed that we weren&rsquo;t going to tell anybody until I was out of my first trimester, so this put him in an awkward position. He decided to go ahead and tell her the truth because he didn&rsquo;t want to lie to her.</p> </blockquote><blockquote> <p>This all happened while I was at work. When I get home, my husband tells me the rest of the story. Now, my SIL works at a local bank, which I happened to have an account at. While she was at work, she decided to look up my account to see if I had changed my last name to my husband&rsquo;s yet (we were recently married). While she was on my account she looked at what I had recently purchased and saw a bunch of baby related purchases. THIS is why she asked him out of nowhere. I. AM. FURIOUS.</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div><blockquote> <p>My husband and I were both incredibly angry with her, and she didn&rsquo;t understand why because she &ldquo;didn&rsquo;t do it on purpose.&rdquo; Are you kidding me? Needless to say, I stopped using the account closed it immediately.</p> <p>She also felt the need to ask him if we knew I was pregnant before we got married, and if that was why we got married.</p> <p>Seriously. The AUDACITY of this woman to invade my privacy like that and think she did nothing wrong!</p> </blockquote><div className="ad-splitter"></div>

11 women share the most inappropriate things someone said to them during their pregnancy.

As if growing a person in your body for nine months and then pushing it out isn&#39;t enough work, pregnant women often have to deal with copious amounts of bullsh*t from people who feel entitled to ask inappropriate personal questions about their pregnancy. One of the many reasons I support a woman&#39;s right to choose to tell someone to STFU.Someone asked people of Reddit who have been pregnant: &quot;what&#39;s the most inappropriate things people have asked you about your pregnancy?&quot; These 11 women share their stories of people who majorly crossed the line:1.) From Abaiyachi: I&rsquo;ve been asked a total of four times where I conceived. By family members. Like...how in depth do you really want that answer? 2.) From size_matters_not: I&rsquo;m the husband in this case, but when my wife was pregnant I met up with an ex-colleague - a woman - who was known for having a screw loose. We were talking about the pregnancy and she said she liked to hug pregnant women from behind and stroke their bumps, so she could pretend it was hers. Yeah, stay the f**k away from my wife. 3.) From Lastofherkind: I had difficulty gaining weight when I was pregnant due to severe morning sickness. I had an acquaintance tell me that my baby was going to be malnourished and sickly since I didn&rsquo;t gain enough weight. That really upset me since I was already worried about that possibility. The baby ended up being average weight and healthy. 4.) From hyphie: People have generally been tactful so far. One that sticks out was my boss blurting out &quot;was it planned?&quot; when I told him. Yeah... that seems to be a common one. Then there was this coworker who took one glance at me and told me &quot;you couldn&#39;t possibly get any bigger!&quot; when I was only 6 months along and carried pretty small. Ooookay.  That&#39;s pretty much it for me. However, I&#39;ll always remember when my SIL brought her new baby to a family gathering. My uncle, who didn&#39;t even know her, asked her a bunch of questions about the birth like &quot;did you give birth vaginally? Did you have an episiotomy? Did it hurt?&quot;. Aaaaawkward. 5.) From jbdaddy12: At 7 months pregnant, my wife was in a grocery store, when a woman we do not know walked up, placed her hand on my wife&#39;s baby bump and said, &quot;How precious, you feel like about 7 months pregnant.&quot; My wife cannot stand being touched, unbidden, by strangers. So she smiled, grabbed the woman&#39;s boob and replied, &quot;You feel like about a B cup.&quot; And they parted ways without another word, &quot;B Cup&quot; standing there aghast and stammering. I love my wife. 6.) From occupandi-temporis: I&rsquo;ve been asked if my vagina was shaved, like, at the moment of me talking to that person, and if my boyfriend shaves it for me. I&rsquo;ve been asked how we have sex. I&rsquo;ve had men ask my boyfriend IN FRONT OF ME if my vagina feels different now when we have sex. 7.) From dustbunnylurking: I had to see a maternal fetal medicine specialist who told me he&#39;d recommend this be my last pregnancy, but to get an IUD not a tubal ligation because when I get divorced, I&#39;ll want to have a baby with my new man. Never met me before.... I tried to give him the benefit of the doubt and started to say something like &quot;God forbid, but i suppose something could happen to my husband,&quot; he cut me off to say &quot;divorce is more likely&quot;. I was more than a little upset with that assessment..... More because, either there is a medical necessity to only have 2 pregnancies or there isn&#39;t, than his divorce comments, but still.... 8.) From ReginaSerpentium: &quot;Was it planned?&quot; is one I get a LOT of now (currently 21 weeks with a baby boy!). Yes, baby was planned but I had a small chance of carrying long enough to make it to a dating scan because of hormonal issues and previous scarring. Touching the belly without asking is constant and I actually slapped an old coworker who came up behind me and did that with no warning.  &quot;You have two boys already, you should have gotten an abortion. You can always have another later.&quot; Yeah I actually got this one. The boys aren&#39;t mine (partners previous relationship), and fcking judgemental old hag can go fck off. God it made me so mad. Also the whole &quot;I&#39;m going to be the godparent/present for the birth/your support person for birth/etc riiiiiight?!&quot;. Urghhhhhh 9.) From DoctorNini: During my pregnancy, I was asked all kinds of things about breastfeeding, how I wanted to deliver, and even whether my husband and I could still have sex. The rudest question was by a coworker after I got back from maternity leave: &quot;so is everything still okay down there or did you need a lot of stitches?&quot;. This was asked during lunch, in front of 10 other colleagues. I was so horrified, I don&#39;t think I even formed a coherent answer. 10.) From alexaplaydespasito: This lady I worked with figured out when I conceived from my expected due date. It was within a week of my birthday. She then told everyone in our office that I got pregnant for my birthday. It was super awkward. I was also asked repeatedly if we were going to circumcise our son. Like why are you f**king asking me about our son&rsquo;s genitals? Why is that anyone&rsquo;s business? 11.) From Swagsman21: My SIL texted my husband out of the blue asking if I was pregnant. I was only 8 weeks and my husband and I agreed that we weren&rsquo;t going to tell anybody until I was out of my first trimester, so this put him in an awkward position. He decided to go ahead and tell her the truth because he didn&rsquo;t want to lie to her.  This all happened while I was at work. When I get home, my husband tells me the rest of the story. Now, my SIL works at a local bank, which I happened to have an account at. While she was at work, she decided to look up my account to see if I had changed my last name to my husband&rsquo;s yet (we were recently married). While she was on my account she looked at what I had recently purchased and saw a bunch of baby related purchases. THIS is why she asked him out of nowhere. I. AM. FURIOUS.  My husband and I were both incredibly angry with her, and she didn&rsquo;t understand why because she &ldquo;didn&rsquo;t do it on purpose.&rdquo; Are you kidding me? Needless to say, I stopped using the account closed it immediately. She also felt the need to ask him if we knew I was pregnant before we got married, and if that was why we got married. Seriously. The AUDACITY of this woman to invade my privacy like that and think she did nothing wrong! 

As if growing a person in your body for nine months and then pushing it out isn&#39;t enough work, pregnant women often have to deal with copious amounts of bullsh*t from people who feel entitled to ask inappropriate personal questions...